The aim of couple therapy is to help build safe and loving connections by supporting communication, identifying coping mechanisms and negotiating difficulties.
Couples regularly come to counselling to communicate better or gain tools to help improve their relationship and these are very good reasons however finding stability during or after a rocky patch takes time and commitment.
The time it takes will depend on how long you have been struggling and the willingness of both parties to still want to make it work. You will also need to have a degree of emotional health within your relationship.
As in individual counselling it is important to understand sore spots and emotional triggers however this is more complex with two people. Most couples see the problems but find them difficult to resolve getting caught in frustrating cycles of blame, anger and avoidance which rob relationships of their strength. The aim of Couple therapy is to help build safe and loving connections by supporting communication, identifying coping mechanisms and negotiating difficulties, to adopt new approaches.
There could be many factors impacting on the health of your relationship such as; life stage, attachment needs and historical issues among other things. In some cases the counseling could identify a particular individual issue that one or both of the parties may need to address. In this case the individual issue such as alcohol or substance abuse or even emotional wellbeing may need to be prioritized for a time. Your counsellor will support you through the process and have suggestions for you in this case.
Key Areas of help
- Assessment including Prepare Enrich Assessment
- Explore current difficulties and support communication
- Identify cycles and patterns of difficulty to enhance understanding
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Well-being is a complete integration of mind, body and soul and when there is a struggle going on it can be difficult to work out which part or parts of us are causing the problem. Counselling is primarily about surfacing perceptions, beliefs and behaviours so the client can understand themselves better.
What to Expect
When approaching counselling especially for the first time and/or meeting a new counsellor it is possible that you will be nervous. Talking about personal issues is challenging and people can have strong emotions and physical feelings particularly just prior to the first session. Discover some pointers to try and help with this.
There are lots of questions that you may be asking yourself prior to counselling.
How can I prepare myself for counselling?
What can I do to help with the nerves?
Can I bring a support person?
What if I’’m nervous about going to my appointment?
Your session cost will be confirmed with you prior to counselling (or at the first session) and payable prior to or at each session via cash, online banking or bank deposit. In some cases sessions will be shorter or longer but generally the same fee is charged.
I am passionate about my work and proud of the qualifications I have achieved. In addition to this and the annual training that is important for this role, I have seen the value of counselling first hand. This is in my own journey as a child to parents now deceased, a marriage partner, as Mum to two children (now in their twenties) and as a friend and a colleague in the workplace. This is the professional and personal base from which I offer counselling.
Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.